The 69er is a popular sexual position that allows each of you to give and receive oral sex simultaneously. The usual position is the woman on top of the man, with her bottom pointed toward his face, genitals lowered so he can lick them. Meanwhile, her mouth is positioned above his penis.

x_691Because you’re giving and receiving pleasure at the same time, some claim a 69er is the ultimate erotic sensation. Others find them to be ultimately frustrating: It’s all too easy to get lazy on your end! If your partner’s working his magic and you’re about to climax, it’s common to forget about his pleasure and try to get away with a few uninspiring licks. But the 69 is a great way to add naughtiness and variety to a stale sex life, and with a few simple adjustments, they’re easy to master. Here, are the tips to make your sex life better with this position.

The correct way

  • Women are quite often bashful about showing their genitals, so lowering themselves on top of their partner’s face and realizing he’s getting a dekko can be a huge turn-on for both of you.
  • Because a 69er exposes the entire pelvic region, giving him access to the whole of the vulva, the perineum (the hairless bit between the anus and the vaginal opening) and your anus, he’s able to stimulate much more than just your clitoris.

    Watch out for…

    • Cleanliness PLEASE! Remember to take a shower and remain clean. You’re lowering yourself right next to his face.
    • Some men consider a 69er so erotic resulting in a too quick ejaculation. So it would be better that the man starts working on the woman long before she starts on him.
    • You need to pay attention! That means you can’t lose yourself in the moment. This is more of a problem for women than for men. Orgasm for men is easy enough. Women, usually require a specific, constant, don’t-alter-anything-just-keep-doing-it-or-I’ll-kill-you type of stimulation to climax. And if he’s in the throes of orgasm or approaching it, he’s unlikely to be paying careful attention to the critical timing you require.
    • If he does manage to keep going and she is the one transported into orgasmic bliss, it’s rather easy to get a little carried away and forget your mouth is wrapped around some very defenseless flesh. The woman is likely to clench her mouth during orgasm. Be careful! If the woman is on top, she is actually the wrong way around for his tongue to work on the most sensitive part of the clitoral area. So, this can mean his stimulation won’t feel as good for her as regular oral sex.

    Tips
    Women, Use your hands. It’s too awkward and tiring to attempt to use only your mouth to stimulate him, so use your hands as well. You can also remove your mouth and work on him with your hands to give yourself a break. The same goes for him. You can also take turns.

    Putting a pillow under his head will keep him from getting a stiff neck from having to lift his head to make contact. Or try lying head-to-toe on your sides, each with the under thigh drawn up as a cushion for the partner’s head.