There are as many sex myths and facts as there are couples.
One may have heard someone say ‘oh they broke up as their sex life was poor’, or someone else’s package size is smaller so their married life didn’t succeed.
Whether we appreciate them or not, we still like to know about sex myths and facts and if they are true or false. Here are some facts which we sometimes like to ignore.
1. You can’t get pregnant during your period – False!
There’s a chance that you can get pregnant during a period, particularly towards the end of your menstrual cycle. Unprotected sex also increases the risk infection by sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
2. You can’t get pregnant during unprotected sex if the man pulls out before he ejaculates – False!
Even if your partner doesn’t ejaculate, sperm can still be present. It only takes one sperm to get you pregnant, and the fluid can also contain sexually transmitted infections.
Some men aren’t aware that they are ejaculating until it’s too late, and it’s easy to get carried away in the heat of the moment.
3. You can’t get pregnant while having sex standing up, or in the shower – False!
If you have unprotected sex you can get pregnant, no matter how or where you do it.
4. You can’t get pregnant while on the pill – False!
The chances of getting pregnant while taking the contraceptive pill are virtually nil, provided you are following the instructions correctly and consistently.
But if you miss pills, are on antibiotics, or have sickness and diarrhoea, you need to use condoms for the next seven days.
5. It’s safe to have sex as soon as you’re on the pill – False!
Different types of contraceptive pills take different times to kick in. This can range from 0-14 days.
Always follow the instructions prescribed with your type of pill, and use an additional form of contraception such as condoms during the time it takes for your choice of pill become effective.
6. Peeing after sex washes out sperm and prevents pregnancy – False!
For a start, urine exits the bladder through the urethra, which lies above of the vaginal opening. Which means any sperm in the vagina won’t even get wet when you pee.
7. Men want sex more than women do – False !
Women want sex too – but they are guided by other emotions as well. For instance, house work, kids and holding onto a job are good enough reasons to go off sex completely.
So women are exhausted. Plus, hormones make them feel like having a lot of sex during certain times of the month, rather than all of the time.
And, because they tend to attach more emotions to sex than men do, they aren’t going to beg their partners for action if they’ve been giving them attitude.
8. Happy couples have good sex most of the time – False!
Show me a couple that’s having out-of-control, raging sex every night after years of sharing the same bed, and I’ll show you a pig that can fly.
Life and all its pressures get in the way for all of us. Does it mean your friend is lying if she claims to have fabulous sex after five years of marriage and two kids?
Maybe. Or maybe she thinks you have a great sex life and doesn’t want to admit she doesn’t. Or maybe her definition of great sex is different than yours. Or maybe she really does have terrific sex… once a month. It’s all subjective.
9. Men are more promiscuous than women – True !
The real truth is, this one is probably true, but by much less than you think. When polled about their sex lives, men overestimate while women underestimate, due to societal pressures. It’s also totally dependent on how attractive the people in question are.
An attractive, sexually liberated woman is likely to have had more partners than a not-so-fab-looking guy around the same age, for instance. It’s called opportunity.
10. Women don’t like porn or dirty sex – False!
Women love porn. It gives them new ideas and tricks to try out to make their partners happy. Plus, a lot of them are exchanged on emails or discussed between giggles next to water coolers in the office.
Anyone who thinks men are the only ones mentally undressing that sexy passenger on the metro is deluded.
11. Men always want sex – False!
You need to give more credit to your partner than that. But if he is below 18 and has landed his first girlfriend, then perhaps it is true.
However, as men get older responsibilities, daily pressures, work, bills etc. come in the way and he cannot think of sex all the time. But one look, and he is ready to jump into bed – that’s also true!