G-spot

What is a G-Spot?

The “G” spot, so named after Dr. Ernest Grafenberg who wrote in 1950 an article about his discovery of this area of the female body, is a bean shaped mass of nerve tissue behind the clitoris located just the other side of the pubic bone on the upper wall of the vagina. The size and development of the urethral sponge can vary from woman to woman and can be anywhere from the size of a dime to a silver dollar, hence no two women will respond to G-spot stimulation in exactly the same way. G-spot once stimulated gives a woman immense pleasure and is a focal point of sexual arousal.

How to locate G-spot?

To locate G-spot either you can do it yourself or take the help of your partner. Locating G-spot together is not only fun by it will help you reach the peak of sexual satisfaction. You must be able to guide your partner and should be open as to what feels good and how your partner should stimulate your G-spot.

Positions that help locate and stimulate G-spot?

So, start out by kissing and stroking, caressing and teasing each other until you two can’t stand it any more and penetration is necessary. Vaginal stimulation may be unpleasant if the vagina is not well lubricated. Production of vaginal lubrication varies dramatically from female to female. Hence if vaginal dryness is a concern, make sure to use a water-based lubricant during your exploration.

The exact location of the G-Spot varies slightly from woman to woman. It is normally found about two inches in from the opening of the vagina, on the anterior wall (toward the stomach). Place two fingers into her vagina. Using your index finger, touch the anterior wall. It generally feels best if you keep consistent, firm pressure along the entire length of the fingers against the vaginal walls. Stop rotating and rest your fingertips on the (often slightly ridged) area of the vagina just behind the pubic bone and exert pressure upwards, towards her belly. This is direct G-spot stimulation, and it usually feels best if you move the fingers in small, slow circles, or point the fingers more sharply upwards and rock them forwards and back.

The G-Spot is easily located with the help of a partner while the women is lying on her belly with her hips slightly elevated. When in this position, one’s partner should apply light pressure to the vaginal wall with two or three fingertips while pressing down (towards the bed).

If a woman chooses to lie on her back, she or her partner can insert a couple of fingers curved upwards and then press upward with the tip of the fingers until you are pressing the G-Spot.

If engaging in intercourse, many women find the woman-on-top or the sitting position the best arrangement for providing stimulation to the G-Spot.

Sex on the first date

Love at first sight or sex on a first date – there isn’t much difference between the two. Often you fall in love with someone at the very first stance only to regret your hasty decision. Sometimes this intense attraction brings with it the temptation to get physically involved.

With a flurry of emotions to deal with post intimacy, the relationship tends to get tricky in the initial stages, as your heart gets into a serious conflict with your head. It’s entirely up to the couple as to whether they want to ride the moment or hold on a little longer till they are absolutely sure of their commitments towards each other.

When we asked Gen X about how comfortable they were to have sex on their first date, they seemed pretty divided on their opinions. While some felt that there was nothing wrong in it, provided both partners were consenting adults, there were others who admitted it to be a fun-for-a-while moment which lacked permanence.

Whether the first date transforms into a long term relationship or not is not the point to be debated upon. It’s about how the modern generation is much more accepting of sex on the first date itself.

“Come on, you’re living in 21st century where people know what’s right and what’s wrong for them. Nothing is a big deal as long as it’s healthy and done with full consent. I don’t see anything immoral in having sex on the first meeting. If you believe that the first impression is the last impression, then be broad-minded enough to have sex with someone you are naturally attracted to,” says 24-year-old Jayant Batra, working with an MNC.

Fully supporting the above argument, Rajat Gupta, 24, working as an executive with a private firm, quips “Most guys believe in living in the present, rather than wasting time thinking about the distant future, so, if a girl asks me for sex on our first date, I’ll oblige willingly.”

However, 26-year-old call employee Kartik Mehra shares, “You can’t always blame men for sex on a first meeting. At times, it’s the girl who insists on it and on getting a negative response from the guy, very often women feel offended. I remember on my first date, my girl asked me if we could go to a private place and on my refusing her, she simply walked off.”

On why couples get tempted for such sexual encounters, Dr. Avdesh Sharma, a clinical psychiatrist, elucidates, “Mainly it’s because of the influence from their peer group which coerces couples into getting physically close. Often, they may feel that sex is the best option to hold onto a person and women in most of the cases think that if I don’t give in, I may lose the man.”

Impulsively living the moment, very often the uber cool generation ignore the mental and physical effects of such quick physical encounters. Dr. Sharma adds, “There are repercussions like sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy and AIDS that arise. Other than this, the physiological upshot is tough to deal with, in case the relation doesn’t continue after a few sexual episodes. You feel completely used; the level of guilt is extremely high in case there was alcohol involved, and you develop a hatred for the opposite sex that lasts a lifetime.”

Understanding the aftermaths of such virtually one-night stands, there were a few young minds we spoke to who strictly stood  against the idea of  lovemaking on day one. While they weren’t obsessed with the permanence of the relationship, they were skeptical about sex.

“Demand for sex on the first date makes it clear that you are not interested in a long term relationship. Personally, I believe in forging an emotional bond, before indulging in close moments or sex. Merely one date can’t familiarise you much with a person that you agree to get cosy in bed immediately,” retorts 22-year-old Sakshi Arora, working as a client and media relations executive.

Agrees Rachna Seth, a 23-year-old PR consultant, “The first date is meant to know and get comfortable with each other. Being comfortable doesn’t mean ending up in a physical connection with someone whom you just like or have been infatuated to.”

College goer Mohit Sikka adds, “I would never appreciate a girl who believes in showing off her cool attitude or status through her broad-mindedness in initiating sex on our first meeting. I think it’s unhealthy and morally I wouldn’t want to live with any guilt.”

As Gen X stands at loggerheads with their opinions on sex on the first date, it’s all about being level headed regarding their sexual choices.

Getting too hot and heavy? Here’s are some tips to refrain from sex on the first date.

Avoid too much privacy : Most of the times, it’s the venue for the date and the surrounding atmosphere that lures young couples to have sex. Thus, shun away private places like a hotel room or a friend’s place that allows you to get cosy. Meet at a public place instead and be comfortable.

Keep it short and sweet : Try not to keep a very prolonged date as the person might try to charm you on the first meeting itself. It’s better to give more time to him/her to open up on future occasions.

Be clear about your preferences : Do not treat sex as a casual affair. Be firm on your physical needs and choices. Even if the other person seems casual enough to freely discuss it, do not let such a discussion go overboard.

Avoid any provocative discussion : You should avoid indulging into an intimate conversation related to sex as a subject because if either of you drop a subtle hint or initiate such a topic, the opposite sex may feel you to be an easy catch who doesn’t attach much meaning to a sex escapade. Try and delve into each others’ lives, hobbies, career choices etc.

Don’t dress merely to provoke : Girls often try to make an impression by donning revealing outfits presuming it will attract the male counterpart. Sometimes too much of skin show on the first day itself gives out a wrong vibe. Opt for comfort clothing and remember the man should judge you by your brains.

No chauffer service please : Get away with any hand-holding and teasing moments in the car on your way home. If you’re a lady, try arranging for your own conveyance so that your date doesn’t get a chance to ask you for a drop back home. In case of men, they should not insist incessantly on asking the girl to be dropped back, so as to avoid any possibility of a passionate contact with her.

Know his background : It’s always advisable to know a bit more about the person you’re meeting for the first time. If he’s been a Casanova always, be careful and act as a tough girl, even if you’re not!

No alcoholic moments : Indulging in any kind of alcohol intake is a strict ‘no’ on the first date. It can be really dangerous, as it doesn’t allow you to be in your right senses and unknowingly you may agree upon a sexual act which you might regret later.

Kissing the miss : When it comes to expressing love on the first date, don’t go overboard with any physical gesture, especially a goodnight kiss on the steps while bidding adieu. Make sure that it’s restricted to a polite peck and that too on the cheek as a lip-lock or even a tender touch on her lips can set off something unexpected.

Protection is a must : However, if you do decide to give into your feelings and indulge in sex, ensure you use protection and don’t give opt for unprotected sex. Prevention as we all know is better than cure, so play safe people!

Awas Rakaman Klip Video, Gambar

Sebarang rakaman klip video atau gambar yang disimpan dalam memori telefon bimbit jangan disangka terpadam sepenuhnya setelah pengguna berkenaan menekan butang ‘padam.’

Orang ramai mungkin tidak sedar bahawa hampir 95%data memori dalam telefon bimbit yang sudah dipadam itu boleh diperoleh semula menggunakan perisian tertentu.

Ia bukan saja boleh dilakukan oleh mereka yang profesional, malah sesiapa saja mampu melakukannya dengan memuat turun perisian menerusi laman web Internet.

Perkembangan itu bermakna data-data peribadi pemilik telefon bimbit adalah terdedah dan privasi mereka berisiko diceroboh oleh pihak tidak bertanggungjawab.

Perbuatan seumpama itu akan mengundang masalah sekiranya ada pihak yang menyalahgunakan perisian terbabit dengan niat untuk menceroboh ruang peribadi seseorang itu.

Masalah lebih serius sekiranya ia melibatkan data-data seperti rakaman klip video atau gambar berunsur seks membabitkan pemilik telefon bimbit itu.

“Masalah itu boleh berlaku apabila telefon bimbit bertukar hak milik, misalnya ketika seseorang pemilik itu menjualnya kepada pihak lain. Ia juga boleh berlaku ketika telefon bimbit dihantar ke kedai untuk dibaiki atau ia dipinjamkan kepada kenalan.

Apa yang berlaku kemudian ialah pihak yang berniat jahat akan mengambil kesempatan melakukan ugutan terhadap mangsa atau lebih teruk ia didedahkan kepada umum, seperti yang biasa berlaku sejak kebelakangan ini.

Data tersimpan dalam cakera keras komputer yang sudah terpadam juga tidak terkecuali daripada risiko itu kerana pihak yang tidak bertanggungjawab tetap boleh menggunakan kaedah sama untuk mendapatkan semula data terbabit.

Contohnya seperti yang berlaku ke atas artis Hong Kong terkenal, Edison Chen yang pada tahun lalu menggemparkan seluruh dunia dengan penyebaran gambar dan klip video seks membabitkan dirinya dengan beberapa artis wanita terkenal yang lain. Ia berlaku selepas beliau hantar komputernya untuk dibaiki.

Oleh itu AWAS atau berhati-hatilah dan cuba elak daripada  merakam perkara tidak bermoral tidak kira menggunakan telefon bimbit atau peralatan elektronik lain.

Seperti yang kita tahu sudah banyak  aduan yang dibuat oleh mangsa-mangsa dimana mangsa diugut oleh bekas pasangan yang mendakwa memiliki rakaman video hubungan seks atau gambar intim ketika hubungan terdahulu.

Oleh itu, berfikirlah dua tiga kali (baik & buruknya) sebelum merakam aksi atau gambar anda yang terlampau walaupun ianya untuk kegunaan anda sendiri.

Why do girls allow taking of nude pictures?

IT has to be a sign of absolute trust, plain gullibility or loose morals when we read of the same consequences of usually failed relationships (or stolen hand phones) in “Woman who lost gems fears release of nude pics” (The Star, May 20) where women fall prey to blackmail of having their nude pictures exposed.

Some questions that beg to be asked are: “Why our sweet ladies think that it’s proper to allow their boyfriends to take pictures of them naked? Do they think naked flesh will cement their relationship and stop the boyfriends from straying or flirting?

If a boyfriend threatens to break off a relationship if he is not allowed to take pictures of her undressed, does she believe it’s worth to keep such relationships?

We have seen how such pictures have nearly destroyed the careers and families of those exposed, and yet there are women wanting to continue frolicking in the altogether. And for heaven’s sake, most of them are not even engaged!

Of course, we can say Malaysia is a progressive nation and we are broad minded and what anyone does in private is private. But to trust a guy completely just because he says you have a lovely body and he wants to have sweet memories? Come on ladies, grow up!

My Related Post  : http://khunshikang.wordpress.com/2009/02/25/awas-rakaman-klip-video-gambar/

Sex,Lies and Videoclips

In this age of sex,lies and videoclips,nothing really comes as suprise anymore.But Jennifer,who appears to be just like any others 21 years old college student,says the kind of home videos some of her peer are making now would raise more than just a few eyebrows.

It seems almost every college student now knows of  someone who has filmed themselves having sex,or has seen those clips online.According to DSP Mahfuz Abd.Majid form Royal Malaysia Police’s Cyber and Multimedia Crime Investigation Division (CMCID), most of the reports they’ve received or leaked sex videos feature young people aged between 16 to 28.

If you checked the Internet, you will find more than just leaked videos. As many a new media proponent would argue, technology has changed mass media so much. For some, it’s no longer enough to just consume media content, you have to be an interactive producer of content as well; and it’s the same with pornography.

Home made porn videos, featuring youths joking around in local slang with their faces in full view, are made explicitly for all to see on the Internet; that is the erotic lure of new age porn.

After all, teenagers these days are comfortable being in front of the camera. They pose provocatively when they’re taking pictures (or more commonly known as cam-whoring these days), and explore risque topics over webcams.

It is an exhibitionist mindset, that seems to have emerged from the same self-indulgent, self-publishing, “attention-whoring” culture, with which many young people Facebook, Twitter and blog. For some, filming their sex acts is but an extension of this exhibitionist streak.

Possession and distribution of pornographic content, even if it is self-produced, is illegal.

Just for thrills
Farah, 19, is in a stable relationship, and she and her boyfriend film themselves having sex despite knowing the risks involved for the added thrill.

“There’s excitement when we are filming ourselves having sex. It enhances the experience. But a lot of it is for my boyfriend. He lives far away, so I let him have some videos of me on his cellphone to keep him hooked while I’m not around.

“It’s also for evaluation. I want to see how I look, so I can improve on my performance. I don’t sleep around, so I had to learn (about sex) from watching porn. I have a whole stack of DVDs of porn I downloaded from the Internet, and I have a membership with a sex chat service,” said Farah matter-of-factly.

The college student believes she isn’t doing anything wrong, although she sometimes feels guilty because of her religion. She thinks their sex clips are private, and her biggest worry is that her parents might discover them one day.

Jennifer is a lot more liberal in her sexual outlook; she admits to sleeping around and watching a lot of porn but draws the line at recording her sex acts.

She and her friends have “porn parties” where they watch their latest porno downloads, but she always has her guard up.

“I never do webcams. I never put my pictures or videos on my blog, even though some sex blogs are doing that now. That’s because these days, there’s no such thing as ‘I love you forever’. This guy I dated for two years suggested we film ourselves once.

“But for me, even if we’re married there’s no guarantee it won’t come back to haunt me. Who knows? I might marry a Datuk next time, or become someone famous. The most I’ve done is tape some stuff just for fun, which I deleted immediately after watching it once,” said Jennifer during an interview at a cafe in Kuala Lumpur, where she talked openly about her sex life within earshot of several patrons.

She, however, could not resist sharing her sexual experiences on a blog.

“My blog is completely anonymous, because I don’t want my family to know,” says Jennifer who couldn’t be persuaded to reveal her blog address.

Early exposures Psychologist Associate Professor Dr Khaidzir Ismail from Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia believes one of the main reasons why young girls seem more sexually daring to try things like videotaping, cyber sex and sex blogging, is increasingly early exposure to sex.

“Women naturally enjoy sex, they enjoy the intimacy. But when they’re sexually active from an early age, our research shows that they become habitual. They want more, and they explore more, branching into things like videotaping,” he said.

Twenty-year-old communications student Melissa is one of those “early adopters”, having watched porn as a secondary school student with classmates on her cellphone at the back of the classroom, and even along her college corridors “in broad daylight” using the campus’ free wireless broadband.

More and more youths are filming themselves having sex these days.

Melissa is used to filming her sexual encounters. She thinks taping sex has become so common some girls might feel pressured into doing it. She commented: “It’s so acceptable these days. If a guy takes out his cellphone halfway through sex, it’s hard to say no sometimes.”

Even though she knows several friends who’ve had their videos leaked, she remains unperturbed.

“My boyfriend has sex videos of me on his cellphone right now, and I have ex-boyfriends who still have videos of us having sex. But I’m more careful now after my friend’s video got leaked. If I’m breaking-up with anyone, I’ll make sure I delete my videos first,” said Melissa.

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Not safe for life

AN indication of how prevalent filming sex has become is the increase in police reports and media coverage of leaked sex tapes and pictures in the last two to three years.

DSP Mahfuz said sometimes, leaked footage aren’t even the result of malice, but sheer carelessness.

“Sometimes the people who have the videos aren’t even thinking about publishing or distributing them. Maybe they sent their laptops for repair, lent someone their thumbdrive, or had their computers accessed over a network by someone else.

“We had a case involving a college student living with four other people. They accessed the Internet using the same hub, and one of her housemates used this to retrieve nude photos of her and used them against her,” he said.

Melissa knows all too well how such things never just stay hidden on the Internet, or in a spurned lover’s cellphone memory card, and how unpleasent the consequences are.

“My friend broke up with her boyfriend, so he sent naked pictures of her to all their friends in college using bluetooth. At first, I didn’t want to see them, but naturally everyone gets curious.

“At first she was like, ‘whatever’, but then people started to talk about it, and finally she just broke down. She stayed at home for about three months, not hanging out, not partying, nothing,” revealed Melissa.

Although Mahfuz says possessing and distributing any form of pornography, whether it’s self-produced or downloaded, is illegal, he reveals that the police “don’t go hunting for it (personal sex videos)”, and they usually investigate a case only when there’s a complaint.

Almost all the complainants of leaked pornographic materials have been girls. Although the guys are usually the ones who initiate the sex recordings, it is usually the girls who bear the worst of the social stigma and shame when these clips become public.

Incriminating pictures or videoclips will eventually find its way on the Internet even when you think they have been deleted.

But in terms of people who’ve had their sex tapes leaked without their permission, Mahfuz says the law is on their side.

“Usually if the victim can help narrow down the possible suspects who would leak their videos, we have more than a 50% chance of finding the person responsible. The victims can also get a court injunction prohibiting the videos from being published if they know someone already has them,” he said.

Jennifer offered some rather different words of consolation to those who’ve had their tapes leaked.

She said: “It’s not like it’ll be national news. There are so many sex tapes out there, you won’t even be able to find what you’re looking for.”

Then again, remember what happened to Hong Kong actor Edison Chen.

(All names have been changed.)

Source: rage.com.my

Sex myths busted

There are as many sex myths and facts as there are couples.

One may have heard someone say ‘oh they broke up as their sex life was poor’, or someone else’s package size is smaller so their married life didn’t succeed.

Whether we appreciate them or not, we still like to know about sex myths and facts and if they are true or false. Here are some facts which we sometimes like to ignore.

1. You can’t get pregnant during your period – False!

There’s a chance that you can get pregnant during a period, particularly towards the end of your menstrual cycle. Unprotected sex also increases the risk infection by sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

2. You can’t get pregnant during unprotected sex if the man pulls out before he ejaculates – False!

Even if your partner doesn’t ejaculate, sperm can still be present. It only takes one sperm to get you pregnant, and the fluid can also contain sexually transmitted infections.

Some men aren’t aware that they are ejaculating until it’s too late, and it’s easy to get carried away in the heat of the moment.

3. You can’t get pregnant while having sex standing up, or in the shower - False!

If you have unprotected sex you can get pregnant, no matter how or where you do it.

4. You can’t get pregnant while on the pill – False!

The chances of getting pregnant while taking the contraceptive pill are virtually nil, provided you are following the instructions correctly and consistently.

But if you miss pills, are on antibiotics, or have sickness and diarrhoea, you need to use condoms for the next seven days.

5. It’s safe to have sex as soon as you’re on the pill – False!

Different types of contraceptive pills take different times to kick in. This can range from 0-14 days.

Always follow the instructions prescribed with your type of pill, and use an additional form of contraception such as condoms during the time it takes for your choice of pill become effective.

6. Peeing after sex washes out sperm and prevents pregnancy – False!

For a start, urine exits the bladder through the urethra, which lies above of the vaginal opening. Which means any sperm in the vagina won’t even get wet when you pee.

7. Men want sex more than women do – False !

Women want sex too – but they are guided by other emotions as well. For instance, house work, kids and holding onto a job are good enough reasons to go off sex completely.

So women are exhausted. Plus, hormones make them feel like having a lot of sex during certain times of the month, rather than all of the time.

And, because they tend to attach more emotions to sex than men do, they aren’t going to beg their partners for action if they’ve been giving them attitude.

8. Happy couples have good sex most of the time – False!

Show me a couple that’s having out-of-control, raging sex every night after years of sharing the same bed, and I’ll show you a pig that can fly.

Life and all its pressures get in the way for all of us. Does it mean your friend is lying if she claims to have fabulous sex after five years of marriage and two kids?

Maybe. Or maybe she thinks you have a great sex life and doesn’t want to admit she doesn’t. Or maybe her definition of great sex is different than yours. Or maybe she really does have terrific sex… once a month. It’s all subjective.

9. Men are more promiscuous than women – True !

The real truth is, this one is probably true, but by much less than you think. When polled about their sex lives, men overestimate while women underestimate, due to societal pressures. It’s also totally dependent on how attractive the people in question are.

An attractive, sexually liberated woman is likely to have had more partners than a not-so-fab-looking guy around the same age, for instance. It’s called opportunity.

10. Women don’t like porn or dirty sex – False!

Women love porn. It gives them new ideas and tricks to try out to make their partners happy. Plus, a lot of them are exchanged on emails or discussed between giggles next to water coolers in the office.

Anyone who thinks men are the only ones mentally undressing that sexy passenger on the metro is deluded.

11. Men always want sex – False!

You need to give more credit to your partner than that. But if he is below 18 and has landed his first girlfriend, then perhaps it is true.

However, as men get older responsibilities, daily pressures, work, bills etc. come in the way and he cannot think of sex all the time. But one look, and he is ready to jump into bed – that’s also true!

Topless treat for boyfriend

His car was among those washed by topless women during Singapore’s recent ‘Tease and Wash’ show.

Free lance photographer Gary Yong, 28, couldn’t believe it when his girlfriend Bella Zhong told him that she was one of the 20 winners of Singapore’s first topless car wash.

He was more surprised when she wanted him to be there with her. According to the rules, winners were allowed to bring a friend along to the event.

Besides, he had a car and she didn’t.

Both decided to go and see for themselves on Sept 16, if the event billed ‘Tease and Wash’ was really true.

Splashing time… one of the four models hard at work

 

Zhong, an advertising executive told The New Paper: “I was quite surprised it really happened.

“At first I thought, ‘Cheh, wear bikini’. Then they took it off. They were wearing nipple tapes.

“The pieces were very small, just covering. I thought, wow. Then they took it off. They were really topless.

When Yong and Zhong arrived, they were briefed by the organisers on the guidelines – no touching the models, no photography except by the two official photographers.

Then the cars rolled out to be washed. The models moved in with their hoses and props – wash mitts, big brushes and sponges.

Zhong and her boyfriend who were among the first to arrive soon spent their time discussing the models’ figures.

In the flesh…While she washed, they gawked

 

“The caucasian model really stood out. And there was this one girl who was very skinny but busty for her size.

She said the event was “very entertaining”.

But was she uncomfotable to be at such an event with her boyfriend of three years?

“I think I’m pretty open about it. There’s no point getting jealous. It’s something we can experience together.

Chen…we were treading on dangerous ground

 

“It’s not every day that you get a topless girl washing your car for you.”

Event orgainser Gerald Chen, 29, said he knew that his company, Motoring Exhange, was treading on dangerous ground by holding such an event, even if it was touted as a ‘private’ one held in a disused wharehouse.

“It was a risk we were willing to take,” he said.

He said censored pictures taken from the event, with the breasts of the models digitised, have been uploaded on the website, with an “above 18″ restriction on it.

10 places where women want to be touched

Forget a woman’s cleavage, there are more erogenous spots that you can explore to get your lady sexcited. Read on to discover her ten most sensuous body parts.

What guys often mistake is that they go straight for the woman’s breasts or other private parts, without concentrating on her nine other moan zones.

So, if you want to get your girl into the mood, stimulate some of her often-neglected body parts.

Tresses

All guys like women with gorgeous locks. But what you need to know is that women love being touched on their head. It’s quite a stress reliever.

Running your hands sensuously through her tresses is likely to send shivers down her spine. Massage her temples to the nape of her neck and she’ll be game to your desires.

Nape of her neck

In ancient Japan, the back of a woman’s neck was considered extremely attractive by men as it was one of the few zones that were not covered by the elaborate kimono.
Today, very few men focus on the nape of the neck, but we suggest you build up the pleasure by gentle touching and kissing your lady love from her hairline down to her shoulders. It will make her reach dizzying heights of pleasure.

Collar bone

A well-defined collarbone is what men find irresistible. So, why not touch and kiss her there. Unbutton her shirt just a little and stimulate her collarbone with your touch. Create circles with your tongue and give her love bites right there, just to remind her of how much you want her.

Small of her back

Most women love it when their guy places his protective hand against the small of her back as it shows that he feels very strongly about her.

So, why not incorporate this gesture into your foreplay routine, by kissing or licking down her spine to end up with a kiss on the small of her back. It will definitely get her into the mood for more!

Behind her knees

This area is a power house of sensitive nerve endings. You can gently caress the back of her knee under her skirt while the two of you are in an open public space as it is sure to get her excited by the time you reach home.

Palms of her hands

We use our hands to please our partners, but have you ever thought that you could arouse a woman by stimulating the palm of her hand? Run your finger along her palm as that will make her feel relaxed and ready for a sexy rendezvous ahead.

Her earlobes

This is one of the most erogenous moan centers of a woman’s body. Touching, kissing and even gently biting her earlobes will send her into a sexual tizzy. If you are getting extra adventurous, simply nibble around the outside of the rest of her ear as well, but don’t put your tongue inside her ear. That’s a major turn off!

Happy feet

There’s nothing more sinfully seductive than a foot massage. It will help her relax, especially if her job requires her to be on them all day. Get yourself some aromatic massage oil or lotion.

Pay extra attention to the pressure points such as her toes, ankles and the sides of her feet too. Some women love enjoy having their toes sucked, but others find it repulsive, so ask your babe what she would have you do before putting them in your mouth.

Soft thighs

Touching a woman’s inner thighs without touching her private parts is the most sensual tease that is sure to get her all charged up.

Employ your hands and mouth to caress and kiss the insides of her thighs but remember to pull back before going all the way.

Himpitan saraf

Kebas belakang paha petanda abnormaliti saraf tunjang

HIMPITAN yang berlaku pada dalam atau luar saraf akan memberi impak terhadap postur tubuh, kemampuan anggota tangan dan kaki serta kesakitan semasa berjalan.

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KEBAS di bahagian kaki atau belakang paha yang kadang kala melibatkan kawasan pinggul sering sahaja dianggap remeh oleh kebanyakan daripada kita.

Dengan hanya menyapu salap panas atau mengurut, kesakitan dan rasa kebas tersebut hilang seketika, namun ia menyerang kembali tanpa mengira waktu.

Dalam istilah perubatan, kebas atau paresthesia merupakan satu keadaan di mana kawasan pada bahagian anggota badan seperti kaki dan tangan tidak boleh merasa.

Menurut Pakar Perunding Neurosurgeri (Bedah Otak dan Saraf), keadaan tersebut boleh menjadi lebih teruk sekiranya dibiarkan berlanjutan.

Tekanan terhadap saraf

Kebas atau rasa mencucuk di bahagian aras pinggang hingga ke bawah merupakan antara simptom awal terhadap abnormaliti keadaan saraf tunjang di dalam tulang belakang.

Gejala tersebut boleh berlaku akibat penyakit berkaitan saraf tunjang dan akar saraf yang secara umumnya dibahagikan kepada tiga kumpulan iaitu Extradural (25 peratus), Intradural extramedullary (50 peratus) dan Intradural intramedullary (25 peratus), berdasarkan kepada kedudukannya dengan selaput saraf tunjang atau dikenali sebagai Dura Matter.

Tekanan terhadap saraf tunjang boleh menyebabkan pesakit mengalami gejala seperti lemah anggota kaki, hilang keseimbangan semasa berjalan, kebas, hilang kawalan autonomik terhadap pundi kencing dan kesukaran untuk membuang air besar.

“ekanan terhadap akar saraf pula menyebabkan pesakit berasa sakit di bahagian belakang dan kadangkala renjatan yang menular ke sebelah bahagian peha dan betis.

Bagi kategori Extradural, ia berlaku akibat penyakit di luar selaput saraf tunjang seperti Spondylosis, cakera (disk) tulang belakang terkeluar (PID), keretakan tulang belakang akibat kemalangan serta ketumbuhan.

Bagi kategori ini, himpitan terjadi di kawasan luar saraf tunjang. Ini secara tidak langsung akan mengganggu bahagian saraf yang mengawal deria sentuh serta saraf motor.

Bagi kategori kedua iaitu Intradural Extramedullary, ia berlaku akibat penyakit di dalam selaput dura tetapi di luar saraf tunjang seperti ketumbuhan Meningioma dan Schwannoma.

Bagi kategori ketiga pula, penyakit tersebut melibatkan saraf tunjang itu sendiri seperti ketumbuhan Ependymoma dan Astrocytoma, jangkitan saraf, penyakit vascular, syringomyelia dan demyelination.

Serang tidak kira masa

Gejala seperti kebas, rasa mencucuk pada mana-mana anggota tubuh terutama bahagian kaki perlu diambil perhatian oleh orang ramai.

Malah, lemah anggota tangan atau kaki serta hilang kawalan pundi kencing dan sembelit memberi petanda terdapat masalah berkaitan saraf.

Bukan sekadar itu, rasa kebas atau sakit akan timbul dan menjadi lebih teruk apabila melakukan kerja-kerja harian seperti membongkok, mengangkat barang atau keadaan posisi tubuh yang salah.

Tidak terhad di kawasan pinggul dan belakang paha, kesakitan turut merebak di anggota tubuh yang lain atau radiculopathy turut mengganggu keselesaan pesakit.

Ada keadaan tertentu, pesakit boleh menjadi lumpuh akibat himpitan pada saraf ini.

Di samping itu juga, kebas pada anggota kaki ini menyerang tidak kira masa. Malah, dalam keadaan tubuh sedang berehat, kebas ini masih terasa.

“Walau bagaimanapun terdapat juga beberapa penyakit lain yang boleh menyebabkan gejala kebas seperti arteriosclerosis di mana salur darah di bahagian kaki menjadi lebih sempit menyebabkan pesakit mengalami gejala intermittent claudication termasuk sakit atau kebas di bahagian kaki dan hanya boleh berjalan sehingga beberapa meter sahaja.

Tambahnya lagi, penghidap penyakit kencing manis juga boleh mengalami gejala kebas di hujung jari tangan dan kaki.

Penggantian cakera

Mengenai rawatan, ia bergantung kepada jenis penyakit dan kerosakan yang berlaku sehingga menghimpit saraf tunjang dan ekor saraf.

Sekiranya ia melibatkan kehadiran tumor, pembedahan perlu dilakukan bagi membuangnya. Sekiranya ia melibatkan cakera tulang belakang yang terkeluar, pembedahan bagi mengeluarkan bahagian cakera tersebut dan penggantian cakera boleh dilakukan.

Ubat penahan sakit dan teknik Traction atau regangan tulang belakang turut dilakukan dalam sesetengah kes PID yang boleh mengurangkan tekanan terhadap akar saraf.

Dalam pada itu, Azmi menjelaskan pesakit perlu berjumpa doktor dan untuk menjalani pemeriksaan fizikal bagi mengetahui keadaan saraf dan kawasan yang terlibat.

“Untuk pemeriksaan tersebut, salah satu caranya ialah penggunaan peta titik saraf sebagai rujukan dan dari situ, pakar dapat mengetahui bahagian sebenar tubuh yang bermasalah,” katanya sambil menunjukkan gambarajah tersebut.

Lanjutan daripada pemeriksaan fizikal, pesakit perlu menjalani ujian imbasan MRI (Magnetic Resonance Imaging) di bahagian tulang belakang bagi meneliti secara terperinci struktur saraf tunjang, akar saraf dan anatomi tisu sekelilingnya dengan lebih jelas.

Selain daripada itu, ujian X-ray dan CT Scan juga boleh dilakukan bagi mengetahui keadaan tulang belakang yang secara semulajadi berfungsi melindungi saraf tunjang pesakit.

Men ’s Coalition Against Polygamy formed

Pro-polygamy groups are now not only facing protest from angry housewives and women’s rights activists; a new group of men calling themselves the Men’s Coalition against Polygamy (Kolmi) has also joined the struggle.

Kolmi spokesman Abdul Hamim Fauzie said via a statement in Jakarta on Sunday that the coalition considered the practice of polygamous marriage degrading, not only to women, but to men as well.

“Facts show that polygamy leads to nothing but domestic violence, discrimination and the abuse of human rights,” he said.

“However, polygamists often argue that polygamy is necessary to avoid infidelity and love affairs. They also claim that polygamy is a part of their religious beliefs. Men use these arguments to justify their polygamous practices,” he added.

“They need to know that not all men agree with and support polygamy. For us, the practice only degrades men’s values and dignity.

“The practice labels men as aggressive, egotistical, wild, unfaithful, and worst of all as being unable
to control their libidos,” he said further.

The coalition also said that it regretted a number of discriminative articles in the current marriage law.

“The law legalizes men to have more than one legal wife when their spouses are seriously ill or sexually incapable.

“This is very unfair, especially to women, because the law only accommodates the needs of men,” Abdul said.

Meanwhile, Muslim scholar Siti Musdah Mulia said that people practicing polygamous marriages who quoted verses from the Koran to justify their behavior were misinterpreting the message.

“Those people must not quote the Koran by verse.

They need to read the whole context and understand its real essence before saying the Koran endorses polygamy,” she said.

Musdah said the Koran actually says that Islam aimed to eradicate polygamous practices, not to endorse them.

“Islam considers polygamy an unjust practice that originated in the dark ages. Therefore, Islam sought to eradicate such practices, but due to the severe reaction it caused, it took some time to fully eradicate the practice from the culture at that time,” she said.

“Overall, the Koran says that Islam aims to ensure justice among human beings and in the way they develop relationships from the smallest scale. Justice here means guaranteeing that no one will feel they are being treated unfairly or are being hurt,” she added.

Musdah said that she was not surprised to see that a number of men decided to bond together and fight against polygamy.

“Actually, anti-polygamy figures in the past were mostly prominent male clerics. The Prophet Muhammad himself was very angry when one of his son-in-laws planned to engage in polygamy,” she said.

Recently, controversy has sparked  following an official launch of a polygamy club, dubbed the Global Ikhwan, in Bandung.

The club, originating from Malaysia, cites the noble aim of helping single mothers, reformed prostitutes and aging single women find spouses.

As soon as the club was established, condemnation poured in, especially from housewives and women’s activists.

Ironically, the club is chaired by a woman named, Hatijah Am, who has insisted the club could introduce people to the beautiful side of polygamy.

Previously, a number of polygamy scandals have reduced the popularity of public figures engaged in the practise.

Source: The Jakarta Post/ Asia News Network

Don’t text and drive

Studies show that the collision risk for drivers who text messages while driving goes up 23 times over those who do not do so as text messaging takes the eyes off the road for too many seconds.

Alice Chong was driving home from work and approaching a toll plaza when her phone rang. Without thinking twice, she reached for her phone which was in her handbag on the seat next to her.

In the blink of an eye, her brand new car had plowed into the back of a van.

The price of that phone call? She was without a car for two months and her vehicle suffered extensive damage to the radiator, body work and engine.

“I only took my eye off the road for a few seconds but that proved to be a very expensive lesson for me,” says Alice (not her real name), who swears never to touch the mobile phone again while driving.

As the experts say, it only takes a second for an accident to happen. There is more concern now that more people seem to be texting while driving, a task labelled as “very distracting” for drivers.

Out of the 73 billion messages Malay­sians sent last year, one can only wonder how many were sent out while behind the wheel of a vehicle.

This subject has come under close scrutiny of late in the United States, where many states have been introducing laws to ban texting while driving. This follows several major accidents linked to texting in the past few months.

Data from the American Transportation Department revealed that 11% of drivers in fatal crashes had been distracted at the time of the accident in 2008, compared with 8% in 2004.

The spike in text messaging and use of mobile phones in recent years is believed to have aggravated the problem although it was unclear how many accidents were due to texting specifically.

Driving hazard: Texting while driving can cause you to lose your concentration and may result in an accident.

There are no statistics available in Malay­sia on the phenomenon but Malaysian Institute of Road Safety Research (Miros) director-general Prof Dr Ahmad Farhan Mohd Sadullah says that distracted driving contributes to out-of-control driving.

This, in turn, is one of the biggest contributors to accidents.

For collisions in 2007, out-of-control driving contributed to 23% (1,318 out of 5,672 cases) of fatal accidents and 14% of overall accidents (3,674 out of 27,035 cases).

Dr Ahmad believes that mobile phones are one of the biggest distractions.

“Phones are a major culprit even though we have laws prohibiting their use (while driving),” he says.

He believes that road safety has a lot to do with prevailing culture and while the mobile phone has given us a sense of urgency, it has become a distraction.

“When the phone rings, there is a compulsion that we have to pick it up. The mobile phone provides promptness but this is dangerous (when driving),” says Dr Ahmad.

Road Safety Department director-general Datuk Suret Singh believes texting causes a significant number of accidents.

“I don’t think we are any different from other countries.

“It is probably higher here compared to Western countries as more Malaysians use their phones and text when driving,” he says.

Federal traffic police chief Senior Asst Comm (II) Datuk Abdul Aziz Yusof says the police don’t tolerate the use of mobile phones.

“There are people who do that but we don’t compromise on this. Texting is worse than talking. There are cases where even motorcyclists are texting. This is very dangerous because their concentration level is minimal.”

He adds that there is no compilation of statistics on accidents due to mobile phone usage.

“It will be very difficult to prove but we are sure there are cases,” says Abdul Aziz.

Road Transport Department (JPJ) enforcement officer Syed Abdullah Syed Hussein says that it will be difficult to prove that a driver was texting.

It is easier to spot a driver who is holding his mobile phone to his ear and slap him with a summons of RM300 than one who is texting.

Hands-free also distract

Dr Ahmad says studies have shown that using a hands-free device causes as much a distraction as talking on the phone.

“When talking (without hands-free kit), we don’t have full control of the steering wheel and our concentration is divided between the conversation and the road.

Suret: ‘All it takes are two seconds’ loss of concentration to cause life-long suffering.’

“When using the hands-free device, only our concentration is divided.

“But studies overseas have shown that both scenarios impair our judgement similarly,” he says.

So logically, this would mean texting presents more danger than talking, as our eyes are off the road for more seconds, says Dr Ahmad.

Last month, a study by the Virginia Tech Trans­portation Institute (VTTI) in the US found that drivers sending or receiving text messages take their eyes off the road much longer than they do when talking or listening on their mobile phones.

The study found that the collision risk for drivers who sent text messages went up 23 times over those drivers who did not use texting devices.

It also showed that text messaging had the longest duration of eyes off road time (4.6 seconds over a 6-second interval).

The study compared this to a driver travelling the length of a football field (about 110m) at 88kph without looking at the road.

“Talking/listening to a cell phone allowed drivers to maintain eyes on the road and were not associated with an increased safety risk to nearly the same degree,” states the report.

Accidents happen in a snap

It must be reminded that accidents happen in a split second – a vital second in which one needs to make a decision and react, says Dr Ahmad.

“When we are driving, we make a lot of decisions and this includes split-second decisions. We have to factor in the risk behaviour of others.

“If you are distracted, you might not be able to react in time or you might make a wrong decision,” says Dr Ahmad.

He gives an example of a motorcycle weaving in and out of traffic.

“If the motorcycle comes in front of you suddenly and if you are distracted, you might not be able to stop your car in time,” says Dr Ahmad.

He gives another example where one’s judgment might be compromised because of distractions.

“If you come to a T-junction and are turning right, you have two decisions to make – judging traffic on the near side and the far side. This is called the acceptance gap.

“If you are distracted, you might underestimate the gap, especially if it’s dark or if you are being obstructed,” he says.

There are even those who claim that driving and texting is more dangerous than driving under influence (DUI), but Dr Ahmad does not want to commit to this theory.

»When we are driving, we make a lot of decisions and this includes split-second decisions« Prof Dr Ahmad Farhan Mohd Sadullah.

”I can’t say it’s true, but a lot people claim that is the case. When you are drunk, you are totally out of control.

“But that split second whether you are affected by drunkenness or distracted by texting is the same; you will meet with an accident,” says Dr Ahmad.

He believes that driving under influence of alcohol or drugs is the most dangerous distraction because the driver may not be in the right frame of mind.

He also lists lethargy as another major distraction.

Other forms of distractions include smoking, eating and fiddling around with electronic devices such as the radio or GPS.

Distractions outside the vehicle would include billboards, improper road signs and even accidents.

He says that even fellow passengers could be a form of distraction.

“You could have children making noise behind. This could increase the stress and anxiety levels. Drivers could react by speeding and driving recklessly,” says Dr Ahmad.

As for the distraction caused by mobile phones, what can be done to stop drivers from using these devices other than the issuance of summons?

Suret reckons most people drive under a false sense of security that nothing will happen to them.

The invincible feeling

“People have probably used their mobile phones before but nothing bad happened. But using the phone is a strict no-no. You should put it on silent while driving. We have survived thousands of years without mobile phones,” he says.

Dr Ahmad agrees, saying many questions were asked on why there were many accidents in the recently ended Ops Sikap.

(There were 17,338 accidents and 265 fatalities in the operation from Sept 13 to Sept 27.)

“A lot of people blame the enforcement. True, it’s not enough, but we cannot be relying on external enforcement all the time. There are limits to the numbers we can supply. Enforcement from family (or passengers) can help,” he says.

“All it takes are two seconds’ loss of concentration to cause life-long suffering. No amount of money can reverse that. Is it worth the risk?” asks Suret.

Outcry over plan to teach sex education to 5yr olds

Teaching them too young…Government’s new plan denounced by parents

A plan by the UK government for compulsory sex and drugs education for children as young as five has sparked an outcry, with parents’ saying it was infringing their rights.

According to the Evening Standard, personal, social and health education will be a new subject on the national curriculum from the age of five, with school children forced to take sex and drugs education at under new reforms.

Most parents and adults thought parents should retain the right to keep their children out of sex education classes up to the age of 16.

Margaret Morrissey, of campaign group Parents Outloud, condemned the government for “infringing parents’ rights”.

Presently, parents have a right to withdraw children from classes on sex and relationships until the age of 16.

The government seeks to reduce it to 15, meaning all children will receive at least one year of sex education before they are legally allowed to leave compulsory education.

It said the government plan could cause problems for Catholic schools, which may be forced to educate pupils about homosexuality and contraception, which have been opposed by the Roman Church.

Lustful singer jailed for audio porn foray

CHINESE artiste Ye Qiantong, who is said to have a lustful voice, has been jailed two years for reading pornographic novels on an online audio books website.

The sentence was suspended with two years of probation and a fine of RMB30,000 (RM15,000).

The website Dongting Zhongguo (www.iListen.cn) has been closed down.

Ye Qiantong is said to have a lustful voice

 

The 23-year-old Ye was hired by Dongting Zhongguo – the biggest Chinese audio books site – to read pornographic novels last year.

She was initially paid RMB40 (RM20) per hour.

A graduate of Shanghai Conservatory of Music School, she had a big following. She was named “China’s number one voice artiste” by netizens.

According to China’s Sina website, Shanghai police had cracked down on Dongting Zhongguo following the arrest of four people - Ye, her employer and two company executives in February.

One of the pornographic novels read by Ye.

 

Recently, Shanghai Xuhui court found the four suspects guilty of producing and distributing 831 pornographic audio files through the audio books website.

Ye’s employer was sentenced to 42 months’ jail and fined RMB50,000 (RM25,000).

One of the executives was sentenced to three years’ jail but suspended with three years of probation and RMB50,000 (RM25,000) fine.

The other received two-year imprisonment but the sentence was also suspended with the same period of probation and RMB30,000 (RM15,000) fine.

Over her 10 months at the website, Ye had recorded numerous popular pornographic audio novels.

Since these programmes were broadcast, Dongting Zhongguo’s traffic and profits went up tremendously with over two million visits and 260,000 downloads.

The website charged its listeners for the audio content while paid members were provided with the pornographic audio files.

It had over 20,000 registered users from major cities such as Beijing, Shanghai,  Guangdong, Zhejiang as well as other countries.

Why men exaggerate their sex scorecard

Few conversations are more fraught than the one that ensues when your partner asks about your previous sexual partners.

But when researchers ask about lifetime opposite-sex partners, men report a total number that is two to four times higher than do women—a mathematical impossibility.

What accounts for the discrepancy?

Men jack up their numbers to look like studs, women slash theirs to avoid being perceived as promiscuous

The conventional wisdom has it that people are lying to protect—or enhance—their reputation.

Men jack up their numbers to look like studs; women slash theirs to avoid being perceived as promiscuous.

It’s not simply a case of people lying,

says Prof Norman Brown

But then why do men and women give identical answers when asked about the past year?

“It’s not simply a case of people lying,” says Norman Brown, a psychologist at the University of Alberta who finds that men report an average of 18 partners while women report 5.

“It has to do with self-presentation, estimation, and memory.”

Women are more likely to “just know,” or to have a tally somewhere, a method psychologists call “notches on the bedpost.”

Women are also more likely to use enumeration (“Let’s see, Dave, Tarik, that guy from the gym…”), which produces underestimates, since people forget instances.

Men are more likely to use rough approximation (“Jeez, I don’t know, like maybe 50?”) or rate-based estimates (“Let’s see, one a month for the last five years…”)- a method that produces overestimates.

But the gender discrepancy isn’t just a matter of counting. The survey method also matters. Extremely sexually active women downgrade phone estimates compared to online. (Men don’t.)

Another factor is undersampling prostitutes, who don’t get included in surveys due to “lifestyle issues”—they’re not in the phone book and they aren’t often home during dinner hours.

Men who “accidentally” overhear a conversation espousing conservative norms (“I don’t blame her for breaking up with you.

Having girls on the side is so uncool!”) report fewer partners than those who hear someone espousing permissive norms (“You’re too young to be tied down.

You should be seeing lots of people!”), says Terri Fisher, a psychologist at Ohio State University. Women who overhear such conversations are unaffected .

Men are also more likely to stretch their numbers when the researcher is female.

But the joke’s on them. According to research by Douglas Kenrick, a psychologist at Arizona State University, the more sexual partners a man has had, the less attractive he seems.

Blanket Statements:
What’s the average number of lifetime sexual partners of various groups?

Americans vs. Indians
10.7 • 3.0

Poets vs. accountants
11 • 3

Whites vs. blacks
7.7 • 8.3

High scores:
Wilt Chamberlain claimed he’d had sex with 20,000 women. How do other celebrities’ self-proclaimed numbers compare?

Charlie Sheen: 5,000
Gene Simmons: 4,600
Julio Iglesias: 3,000
Jack Nicholson: 2,000
Hugh Hefner: 1,000
Isaac Newton: 0

Source: Psychology Today

Body odour, humdrum sex cause divorces in Terengganu

Smelly body odour, humdrum sex and boring pyjamas are behind the high divorce rate in the state and the government is scrambling to find ways to improve sexual relations, especially for newly wed couples.

Top on its list of proposals is to invite cosmetic firms to introduce exotic and sensuous fragrances which can arouse sexual ardour.

State Religious and Information committee deputy chairman believes that this effort could slow the divorce rate among young couples.

He told  that at least three in every ten marriages registered in the state ended in divorce.

He added that separations were now common among couples aged between 25 and 30 years.

Couples who had been married for less than five years but already on the verge of separation told counsellors that routine sex and smelly body odour were the main reasons behind their break up.

Some couples even blamed their spouses for old-fashioned pyjamas – sarong and t-shirt – body odour during intimate moments made their sex life monotonous or turned them completely off.

There was a case where a separation was triggered because the spouse smelled of fish crackers.

Hence, the state government through state Family Development Board was welcoming cosmetic firms to introduce special perfumes to be used by such couples that could sustain relationships till death do them part.

The state government was also looking for beauty consultants to provide grooming and aesthetic workshops for couples in the state.

The workshop is not only intended for the wives but to provide tips to men on how to be attractive to their spouse.

He said the state government had already engaged marriage consultants to arbitrate between feuding couples with a view to reconciling them.

But then the state government have to look into the finer details on the actual cause that triggers divorce; if they are smells and dressing, it should find an appropriate solution to address this and save marriages in the state.

There was also suggested that couples to bathe together to make their relationship more exciting.

This method be introduced as part of pre-marriage courses conducted in the state.