What’s your sex style?

Are you a lustful lothario or a randy rabbit? Do you prefer the thrill of a one-night stand or a sleepy Sunday shag with your long-term love?

Lustful lotharios (one-night stands)

100% lust – there are two categories of one night stand:

• Drunken
  So much so you probably can’t see each other. Hiding the slight panic that you may have pulled a minger, you both fall on and off the bed as you try and get your pants off and more than likely both fall asleep before it actually happens. Probably the best plan, as brewer’s droop would’ve ruined your fun anyway! On the plus side you probably won’t remember in the morning and therefore will fool yourself that the late-night fumbling was fantastic.
• The quickie
• You’ve been after each other for months, that sexual tension has built so high you can no longer contain it and tonight IS the night. Clothes, if you take them off at all, trail from the bus stop to the hallway before the passion erupts. Carpet burns and spontaneous screaming ensues, and wow, it was fantastic, fast but f’n fantastic.
  The pros: Sex with someone new is always a turn on, simple as that. You also don’t have to click on every other level, you don’t have to like each other’s friends or tolerate each other’s relatives.
  The cons: The sex can be terrible – you often don’t give a damn about the other person, sleeping with them to please yourself and only yourself. Being this one-sided and not knowing each other’s bodies, it will be rare to have a mind-blowing shagathon. Lying there with someone you don’t know and don’t really want to know can feel lonely and empty, you don’t get the hugs and they probably couldn’t give a damn what you say in pillow talk.

Randy rabbits/first three months

Passion is still high, at least for the first three months and you’re at it like rabbits anytime, anywhere. No time to eat or sleep, you drive your flatmates mad, have broken the bed, shaken all the plaster off downstairs’ ceiling and only come up for air to ask for bumper sacks of condoms from the nearest family planning clinic.

The pros: Well practice makes perfect and all that jazz, so hopefully the sex will get better and better as you find which buttons to press. This time of discovery can be so much fun, even if it leaves you both walking funny for a while.

The cons: Just beware of carpets; burns can be quite unsightly, no really. Oh, and try not to take the sex for granted – holding out, even if just for a day can make the sex explosive, and avoid that shagged out rut.

Sickeningly smug/ long-term lovers

You know the type, the smug couple. They want to set you up with anyone and everyone just so that you can be as happy as them. They positively glow with an ‘I have sex on tap’ aura. Sickening maybe, but they are on to something – sex with someone you love brings a whole new side to the act. When you are relaxed and trust the other person you can try new things, talk about what you want and what you like and be as kinky as you dare.

The pros: Orgasm is virtually guaranteed for both, as you know what buttons to push and if they’re getting it wrong, tell them. Being all loved-up helps too, it adds a spiritual/ emotional fluffy bit to all the physical stuff. Plus you don’t just have the exhausting energetic sex of singledom, you can have sleepy Sunday shags, giggling gyrations and loved-up lie-ins – more fun all round.

The cons: It can be easy to start off having bad sex, faking it and pretending to have a good time. Once you get into such a rut, sex can be so dull you will avoid it at all costs. Some people do get bored having sex with the same person, others find having sex available on tap can make it less appealing. Also, some people just can’t bring themselves to tell their lover that they are finding the sex crap and they want to try new things.

Take Him By Surprise

To keep the passion alive in your married life you have to be creative and a full of surprises for your man. Believe us men love surprises and if you can satisfy them when they had least expected it, it is the ultimate sexual ecstasy for both of you. Thus try this “Take-Him-By-Surprise” method and see how he craves for more once you are through.

To begin with you have to unleash five minutes of furious passion on him when he least expects it. Take him absolutely by surprise. For example, join him in the bath and make his morning shower so enjoyable that the feeling will linger on till evening when you can do a slow motion replay of it again.

You can also snuggle beside him when he is about to get up for work and slide your hands inside his PJs to let him know exactly what you want and whisper ‘You are so hot, I’ve got to have you right now’. A surprise quickie is what will keep the passion and zeal alive in your sex life.

Now if the morning’s are too hectic with work and preparing the children for school and office etc you can choose the evenings or initiate a spontaneous mid afternoon romp on the weekend: Give him a chore to do in a secluded spot in the house and surprise him with a speedy sex session.

Sex is a very memorable and enjoyable experience. Make it thrilling and passionate by letting your imagination run wild. Be bold and expressive. Know your man and learn what he likes. Study his moods and how he feels and smells, the way he moves, the look he gets when he’s turned on and wants to be in you. This emotional and sexual connection is what makes the sex passionate and pleasurable.

Change Your Sex Style

Do you think that your sex life is in the pits and there is nothing exciting anymore? Well in that case the one and only solution is to try out new ways of lovemaking. Believe me sexual pleasure comes in an astonishing range of flavours – and everyone has a favorite. But we cheat ourselves – and our men – if we insist on always going back for more of the same. Thus a new style may be just what you need to boost the passion meter in your relationship. Try the following lovemaking techniques and you will be surprised with the results.

Spiritual

Well don’t be shocked. Spiritual lovemaking is very enjoyable and it gives you lot of peace, happiness and compassion. When a couple comes together in bed with that deep sense of appreciation for the sheer fact of having each other, it feels like a spiritual awakening – or reawakening. This kind of spiritual awakening can develop during sexual intimacy when everything just feels very special and very loving. But the question is how do you actually create it? One way is to be open, to notice small moments. And they don’t have to be sexual. For example there are moments in your life when you feel proud of your kids or your spouse or you are happy because of something your kids/spouse did. What you can do is recall that moment while you’re cuddling later in bed. Tell him how you feel just then, and let the same feeling flow into lovemaking.

Warm and tender

Lovemaking with warm and tender touch will work wonders in the bedroom. Tender sex is a lovely way of lovemaking, because it is gentle and slow, with light touches. It might incorporate massage, oils, and lots of warm kissing. It can be the prologue to an intensely exciting sexual experience or it can be an end in itself. Actually tender lovemaking is a good way to reconnect after a heated argument between the spouses. Gently move your hands to where you want your partners hands to feel. Show him how to touch you. Example: by stroking, squeezing. Whichever way you like it just show him/ her.

Lustful

Lustful sex is sometimes fun and quite enjoyable as well as relieving. It can be selfish, selfless, an itch that must be scratched – right now, right here, and please hurry up about it. Some women enjoy lustful sex even after many years of marriage coz there are times when it feels good to have a quickie. There are times when you might be feeling lust crazed but your husband is not in the mood, well believe me your lust is what will amp up his mood in seconds. Try it, it is great.

Fantasy

To turn up the volume on your sex life you must try living out some of those sexual fantasies of yours. You should be ready yourself to do something new and exciting. The brain is the most influential sex organ we’ve got, so optimize it. Sometimes it’s a conscious process. You can fantasize about making love with your partner in a tent by the beach. You can fantasies about your partner- great eyes, hair, hand, clef or cleavage-whatever turns you on. You can watch cassettes and X-rated videos together. Another thing that you can do is living your fantasies. Do what you always dreamt of doing but never tried it out of shyness and hesitation. Another thing you can do is making a sexual wish list. Couples who are kinky in the bedroom know that a taste for novelty, openness to invention, a dash of daring, works wonders. Your fantasies don’t have to be sexual; in fact, it’s better to keep them whims, wild thoughts that need not be tame. The mysterious of these waking dreams is what keeps them fresh and exciting.

Funny

Being in the “mood” doesn’t always mean strictly serious business. A couple that makes love out of laughter is willing to take themselves lightly. Thus you need to be able to laugh with each other when you’re interrupted or someone’s leg gets caught in the sheet – when the unexpected occurs in bed. You have to be able to tease each other in a caring way. Thus being silly and funny while lovemaking peps up the mood. Couples who can laugh at their own blunders can really enjoy each other. Sex can be humourous; I mean let it be fun and funny.

What’s Your Sex Style

There are 3 basic sex styles. Sex in a marriage is an important factor. Sex relieves you of all tension and a marriage with good sex is healthier and lasts longer. But every person has his own style of sex and feels aroused and satisfied when they try out their sexual pattern. But at one stage sex becomes very monotonous and then you do need some variety. In this article we have brought for you the three basic sex styles and what you should do to spice up your sex life if you get bored of it. The recipe for a great marriage is having an equal balance of the three.

Quickie

Couples who are very busy and don’t get time to make love at ease basically adopt this style of sex. They are ideal for those marriages in which the man has a higher sexual requirement and urge than the woman. Quickies are perfect for a heated and steamy sexual encounter and bring in the passion and excitement in to the marriage. As a relationship enhancer, quickies can’t be topped; men love them, and it brings back life into your marriage. However it wanes off over the period of time. Men always love it but for women quickie becomes frustrating coz it is not satisfying and they ultimately feel cheated.

If thus you have reached the stage where you no longer enjoy quickie and feel resentful because your husband reaches climax every time he has sex and you have an orgasm maybe once in 6 times then its time you did something about it. You can approach your husband and be frank about it. Tell him that it doesn’t work any more and that a longer session makes you feel sexier and more turned on. If you cant be so frank then try to find a way where it will be able for the two of you to give more time to one another and enjoy sex for a longer time. Prepare a bath for him, give him good body massage and then make love the whole night…..you just have to buy time then from your busy schedule.

Comfort Sex

Comfort sex is the binding factor in a relationship. When two people loves one another and know each other’s body, moods and passion spots then comfort sex is fun. Thus this kind of sex is possible only when two people know each other. This kind of sex is more loving and caring than just trying to reach an orgasm and being satisfied. This is caressing the partners mind than body. It’s not about athletic prowess or numbers of orgasms, but rather about the bonds of time, experience, and intimacy you and your husband share.

But mind you too much comfort sex is boring and it can be killing for the sexual relationship. If you feel that you are having only comfort sex then its high time that you had a steamy and passionate sexual encounter with your partner to bring the passion back into your marriage. Thus plan a date with your husband after the kids are off to bed. Wear something you feel sexy in and light some candles. Have a candlelight dinner and make love on the kitchen table. This change in circumstances inevitably will lead to a change in sexual experience and your relationship.

Passionate Sex

This kind of sex is basically done in the heat of the moment without thinking about the place and occasion. You are aroused and all that you need is to satisfy yourself. It can also be termed as special occasion sex since couples go out on a vacation specially to get the passionate sex back into their life. Special-occasion sex is the thing that breaks up the monotony and gives you the chance to fall in love again and also reminds you that you have been a hot couple. The other kind of passionate sex is to experiment and find out new kinds of mind-blowing sex. In exploring and experimenting, you might discover something that really feels wonderful, and suddenly the sex is something you crave for every moment and at all times. Maybe it’s a new position or some sensual music that pushes you over the edge. The only way to find what turns both of you on is through trial and error. To have passionate sex when you have loads of work and kids to take care of is an almost impossible thought but you have to work towards it. Small acts of sexual passion and urges will be very helpful to ignite the passion in both of you. Thus to have passionate sex you should have variety in your sex life. And pretty soon, you’ll realize that variety really is the spice of a great sex life, and that marriage can be so full of fun and excitement.

Source: seasonindia.com